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How to discipline your children through play

Many parents still associate the concept of discipline with punishment. However, this is a complete misconception.

In order to teach a child to listen and hear us, we don’t need to fight bad behaviour, but focus on teaching them what is acceptable behaviour and what is not.

There are many ways to achieve such a goal with children, but teaching any kind of knowledge through play definitely stands out as one of the best ways.

Children perceive and become aware of the world and life through games. They are vital for a happy and carefree childhood, but it is also a way for children to learn important things for life. The child’s brain perceives and absorbs perfectly everything that the mind is engaged with during play. When they play children’s perceptions are sharpened, and this is a great opportunity to connect with children and teach truly valuable lessons.


Board games

They are one of the main and truly useful ways for children to learn patience, tolerance, good manners and fair play. To help develop good manners, you can apply the following method: take two shoeboxes – designate one to be the “good manners box” and the other the “bad manners box.” Cut stars or other shapes out of stiffer coloured cardboard. Each time your child or you say “please”; “please”, etc., place a figurine in the good manners box. Every time your child or you do something naughty or bad – put one cut out figure in the other box. After a time, let the child determine when and why to put stars in the appropriate boxes. Keep an eye on how it’s doing and adjust if necessary. After a week or two, open the boxes and count the cardboard stars from both boxes. Take stock of the results together. If the stars from the positive box are more, reward the child. The reward does not have to be material.

Puppet shows at home

For these puppet shows, you can use dolls and soft toys that the child knows and loves well. Choose a text, a skit or a skill you want to teach your child and “act it out” in the form of a short skit. For example, how to meet a new friend or how to behave with a friend who has been rude to him. Children love to watch such “performances” and to act them out themselves.

Role-playing games

Any parent can involve their children in role play. The little ones love to get into role. In this way they can very easily learn to shoe, dress, feed, etc. themselves.

You can invite the children to take on the roles of teacher, doctor, fireman, cook, etc. When the child takes on the role of the adult, you take on that of the child and demonstrate how it is appropriate for the child to behave, respectively in the kindergarten, at school, in the hospital, in the restaurant, etc.

While you are in the role of the child, show good manners, gratitude, reciprocity, patience, and all that you feel and experience, so that the child can perceive what and how he should do when he is in the relevant real environment and situation.

Then switch roles and let the child do everything you have already shown him.

Do all this in the form of a game, carefree and fun, not edifying.

To make it even more fun, you can adapt and use some hand-me-down costumes to make the role-play even more authentic.

Telling fictional stories

Almost all children’s books have a moral and are therefore a wonderful way to teach a child specific knowledge, explain a moral category or show good manners. However, making up their own stories provides the opportunity for parents to turn the child’s attention to a specific problem that the child is facing and waiting for a solution.

Taking a creative approach to telling a specific story is a wonderful way for you to learn about the causes of the specific problem, and for the child to learn about its possible consequences. Be sure to inject a dose of humor into a story you’ve made up, which will make the lesson much easier to grasp. A number of scientific studies have confirmed that laughter has many psychological and physiological benefits for people and definitely helps children to relax and grasp new knowledge and skills much more easily.

When parents manage to meet in imaginary worlds with their own children, it is both a magical and practical way to pass on to him the lessons you want him to learn and remember.

Every parent should know that the world of children’s possibilities opens up when we manage to enter their world of fantasies and dreams, but gently and quietly – on tiptoe, not offensively and aggressively.

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